Clearing Letting Go & Cord Cutting
Generally speaking, as we grow older and mature, we become more mentally healthy, as we give up old ideas, and expectations, and come into our own definitions of who we are. This is true in relationships as well. The needs and expectations differ, as we come to redefine our idea of relationships, and therefore, cutting cords, can allow for this growth and maturity. It is very important when relationships are ended that we cut the cord. Where there is discord, it can cut that discord, and allow for new perspectives. It can be particularly useful with co-workers who we have had problems with, and those who tend to "get under our skin" or push our buttons, and grate on our nerves. It can provide the space for us to detach and perhaps see what is really going on. If you find yourself dreaming about someone, or about things in the past and not getting anywhere, doing a cord cutting ceremony can be useful. It can help stop the psychic negativity that may be coming your way from others.
Over the years, I have read many ways of doing the Cutting Cords ceremony, most of them are a variation of each other. Within our program, I show several, although it is a matter of what resonances best with your style of operating. Cord cutting requires a certain amount of energy and is not passive; therefore, it is best done when you are well rested, and relaxed. While being active, (as opposed to asking God to do this for you) it is also quite intentional, so being firm in your intent to let go is important. You don't have to enjoy letting go, you just have to be intent on letting go, knowing that this needs to happen for the good of all. Sometimes it is not easy letting go, and we want to hold on, but as Sting says in one of his songs, "If you Love someone set them free." Whatever the relationship, marriage, siblings, friendship, etc. understanding that each of us have a journey to be on, and rising to a place that allows a certain distancing from the journey your loved ones are on, creates a balance and peace within. Some want to actually "divorce" themselves from the problems of life.
Perhaps instead of "divorcing" ones self of their journey, we could "surrender" to his or her choices within this journey and whatever reason he or she is on it. Then too, and probably you have, but if you haven't read The Afterlife of Billy Fingers, I suggest this as a different perspective. As watchers, observers, etc. the job might be to see at a distance. Detaching, like surrendering is a process. Consider doing some cord cutting. This process can be metaphorically liberating and also watch the words you use to experience this journey... I hear some self-hypnosis going on with many of my clients. Cord cutting from your sister, mother, brothers, friends and/or your parents turmoil if you think it appropriate can help. This is a ceremonial process carried out to heal and detach from situations, people, and events in a way that "unhooks" us from the scenario. In this way, you surrender from the scenarios, while continuing to love them. As for self-hypnosis, what you send out comes back to you! I am speaking to how you think about the loved ones that keep you feeling crazy, the words you use to describe your family story: the more you tell your story the more apt the story is to stay in place, fixed in your life. Even the choice of words you use cements the story in your life. Letting go can mean cutting the cords, but it can also mean rewriting your story. Give it a try using more neutral language. The problem I have seen with my clients is that they truly think they are sending a different message, but it is sometimes the same message with different words. However, nothing is going to change doing the same thing over and over, try a different way.
If this healing does not work on a conscious level, I have created a hypnosis package that can work with the subconscious level to free and let go! So give it a try first, and always know I am around to help if needed! Love and Light, Shirley
Shirley Ryan, PhD, CCHt is a practicing hypnotherapist and spiritual mentor. See more at. http://www.shirleyryan.net